We Are Never Meeting in Real Life by Samantha Irby
Published by Vintage on May 30th, 2017
Genres: Essays, Humour, Memoir, Non-Fiction
“I don’t know what an attractive personality is. I like charisma and charm, but what I really need to find is someone who doesn’t get on my nerves but is also minimally annoyed by all the irritating things about me.”
This book is something that’s always caught my eye when I’m in Indigo or other bookstores. I mean, look at the cover! It’s bright yellow and has a cute cat on it. I decided to finally pick this up since I realized Irby’s next book is coming out soon!
In We Are Never Meeting in Real Life, candidly talks about everything from how her difficult childhood led to a problem in making “adult” budgets; explaining why she should be the new Bachelorette; detailing a disastrous pilgrimage to Nashville to scatter her estranged father’s ashes; sharing awkward sexual encounters; and more.
Irby just wants everyone to know that she’s more than up for the opportunity to poke fun at the ghosts of her past self. But she’s also equally capable of capturing powerful emotional truths in these hilarious and relatable essays.
I’m mad at myself for not picking this up earlier!
Irby’s voice shines through in this collection of essays. She’s absolutely hilarious, unabashedly honest, and incredibly honest.
Is it weird to say that I’m jealous of her? I want her wit and intelligence!
But don’t be deceived by the cute cat on the cover and her funny anecdotes. There are bittersweet moments that make you want to cry.
Irby touches upon everything from mental health and black women, poverty, and dating.
If you aren’t familiar with her blog or her previous work, it might take some time to get used to her writing. And it won’t be for everyone — but it works for me! My favourite part about her style is when she invokes imaginary people in the second person, “Your aunt Karen,” “Your recently retired fifth-grade teacher,” are just some of what she throws into her work.
I wouldn’t call this collection of essays life-changing, but I do appreciate how Irby throws her hat into the ring when it comes to personal essays.
I think before hers, I had exclusively read essays written by cis, straight, white women.
If you’re looking for a quick read with essays that read like a blog post, definitely pick this up.
At least pick the book up and read the first essay, which is Irby’s audition for The Bachelorette.
If you’re a fan of the Bachelor franchise, you’ll get a kick out of her longer responses to these big questions.