I Miss You When I Blink by Mary Laura Philpott
Published by Atria Books on April 2nd, 2019
Genres: Essays, Memoir
“I miss you when I blink. I have felt it so many times in my life, at points where I didn’t really know who I was anymore, where I felt that when I closed my eyes, I could feel myself gone.”
I Miss You When I Blink was the third book we chose to read for Rita Book, the book club I started at work!
We decided as a group that we wanted a book that was a little easier to digest (for context: our last book was Dopesick about the opioid crisis), and something that provided us different talking points when we met up each week.
I happened to stumble upon this book while browsing through Amazon! I Miss You When I Blink is a series of essays that feature spot-on observations about home, work, and the creative life. Through wit and heart, Philpott offers up her own stories to show that we all will figure it out along the way: Multiple things can be true of us at once—and that sometimes doing things wrong is the way to do life right.
I ended up enjoying this book way more than I thought I would. Philpott has such a fun and out-of-the-box writing style. You can tell that she’s intelligent and has a different way of thinking. This is expressed in almost every single essay. I found trying to hold back from highlighting every single line. But every sentence is pure gold! She writes beautifully and with such authenticity. It felt like I was getting to know a friend.
The collection of essays felt like a pep talk from an older sister. It’s all at once funny, poignant, witty, and full of heart. It’s a book that I can see myself gifting to friends and family for Christmas and birthdays.
One of the main reasons why I liked reading these essays was because I saw myself in Philpott. When she describes growing up and coming to terms with her Type A personality, how it manifests in her daily life now, and her fears of never being satisfied with her life are exactly how I feel!
I appreciated that the essays ranged from small gripes in everyday life to huge philosophical heart-to-hearts that made you rethinking your values in life. Because modern adulthood is hard! There are conflicting pressures coming from everywhere. But it all comes together somehow and still makes the collection feel cohesive.
Here are a list of my favourite essays from the book:
- I Miss You When I Blink
- Me Real
- A Letter to the Type A Person in Distress
- Stuck in Traffic
- Ungrateful Bitch
- The Joy of Quitting
- Try It Again, More Like You
I definitely recommend this book to anyone looking for a lighthearted read. It’s very easy to get through and I found myself flying through essays. Oh, and it’s perfect for a book club that meets weekly! You’ll learn something new and personal about your book club members. Plus, I promise there will be a rousing discussion each week.